Hey, Mama’s!!! Greetings and Salutations!!!
So this week I have been thinking a lot about my life and my goals and where I see myself in the future. I think I already wrote a post about that but Anywho! lol There is nothing like spending time with extended family (Especially the older generations)to make you start thinking about it again. Now let me start of by saying that my mom is awesome. She is constantly praising me. Telling what a good person I am, what a good mother I am, and praising me on my family’s new healthy lifestyle and choices. She is my biggest cheerleader and I am sooooooo thankful for her! She is constantly sending me pictures of her healthier food choices and grocery shopping finds. She lets me know that just because I am not skinny, I am making tremendous changes inside and out. She never makes me feel like just because some things are easier for her or happen faster for her, that those things should be the same for me. I love my mom!
Now I know that all Mama’s are different but in general they all want the same things for their children. Sometimes the delivery is just different but in the end we usually just want for them to be healthy and happy. I have seen first hand that the older generations tend to think that tough love is the best policy. If you see someone doing things different than you then you should tell them, whether or not they ask for your advice or not. I believe I read a post on social media recently that said something along the lines of, “Respect your elders. Not because they are always right but because they had so much experience at being wrong.”. They seem to forget about their struggles though and they only remember to highlight those good times. They figured out what worked for them and they think that automatically what was best for them will be best for you. But that is the point of this post! Live YOUR best life and not someone else’s because guess what honey, they already did. Everyone’s best life is different but none are better than any others, except in the eyes of the beholder. This means there basically is no best life! There are only different perceptions of the best life but only you know what’s best for you. Only you can decide what makes you happy and what does not. I can guarantee that you MIL/ FIL, your mother, your father, your grandmother or grandfather, your aunties, uncles, and your cousins cant tell you how to live your best life. You have to figure it out on your own.
I just spent the last couple of days with my Dad’s side of the family. I had a really good time with them too. We had some good food and good conversation but I noticed something about them. They like to judge people on how much money they make or where they work or how many degrees a person has, way more so than on how happy people are. Now don’t get me wrong, I really do wish that I made a 6 figure salary. I wish I had been smarter and stayed in school instead of having a baby at 18 and dropping out. I wish I had a fancier job that paid more money, or a bigger house, or whatever but I don’t. I am happy though. I am very happy with what I have at the moment. I am happy with my 5 kids even though people don’t have a lot of kids now a days. I am very happy with my the fact that my oldest and my second oldest have an age gap of 10 years. I am happy with my mom van that I am still paying off little by little. I am happy with weight loss journey even if it takes me 3 years to get down to my target weight instead of 1 year like some other Mama’s. (Hopefully it only takes 1 to 2 years though! lol) I am happy with my Husband who loves me just the way I am and that means everything to me. My perfect life may not be working a job I don’t like or enjoy just because it pays a lot more money. My perfect life may be working hard at a mediocre job in order to one day achieve my goal of making money being a Mom Blogger/ Lifestyle Coach. Helping others to find out what their best life is and how to to start living it. Getting paid to write/ talk about what I love the most in this life and what gives the most happiness… being a MAMA! That is what I would consider my BEST LIFE! That is what would make me the most happy! Money makes things easier but in my opinion, it wont make you happy. Only you have the ability to make yourself happy.
There is a reason I named my page Grown As Mama. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves that we are the grown ups now. There is always someone who is going to be like… Well I didn’t discipline my child that way or I didn’t feed my children that or in my marriage we didn’t do this or that. That is OK because they are grown and had and still have the right to live their life they want to. Just remember that you too are grown and that you too have that same right! Live YOUR best life and NOT someone else’s!!
Hope all you Mama’s enjoy the rest of your weekends!
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